Relationship Issues
Political Divide – Part 6: “Moral” Communication – The Way Forward
Out beyond ideas of rightdoing and wrongdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.~ Rumi Introduction In these last six posts, I have connected dots from evolutionary psychology and mate selection science to politics (both ancient and current), moral foundation...
Spontaneous and Response Desire – the Underbelly of Heterosexual Mating
John met Sarah at a happy-hour event. She was surrounded by a group of men, but John got some eye contact from her and shared a quick introduction and small talk. It was apparent she was not “with” any of these men, although each one was interested in her. ...
Is Your Sexual Foot on the Accelerator or Brake?
Men and women are different. Their “sexual engine” makes different use of the accelerator and brake. Author, sex researcher, and professor of women’s sexuality, Emily Nagoski, calls this the “dual control model” (Come As You Are, 2015). This model explains aspects of...
Sexual Non-concordance: Recipe for Relationship Confusion
As a man, have you tried to make love to a woman that “seemed” turned-on but actually was not? As a woman, have you endured sexual contact you did not want even though the man was convinced your body signaled otherwise? As a man, have you ever hesitated to escalate...