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Long-term and Short-term Mating Strategies: Domain #2 of Male-Female Difference
“…to an extraordinary degree, the predilections of the investing sex —females, determine the direction in which the species will evolve. For it is the female who is the ultimate arbiter of when she mates and how often and with whom.” ~Sarah Blaffer...
Dynamics in the Mating Economy: Domain #1 of Male-Female Difference
“There are a number of mechanical devices which increase sexual arousal, particularly in women. Chief among them is the Mercedes-Benz SL500.” ~ Lynn Lavner Twenty-two Domains of Difference (See list in Appendix) This is first in a series of posts...
Male-Female Differences in Sexual Psychology and Response
Over the millennia, men and women have evolved with different objectives and strategies of sexual psychology and response – strategies related to choosing a mate, reproduction, and parental investment. For the next several months, this blog space...
Assortative Mating and Indian Match-Making — “Caste” in Stone?
Often described as one of the architectural wonders of the world, the stunning 17th-century white marble Taj Mahal was built by the Mughal emperor, Shah Jahan, as a mausoleum for his beloved wife Mumtaz who died giving birth to their 14th child....
Double Bind Dilemmas for Women in Leadership
On July 20, Republican Representative Ted Yoho called Representative Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez “disgusting” and a “fucking bitch" on the steps of the U.S. Capitol. Ocasio-Cortez eloquently rebutted Yoho on the House floor saying, “This issue is not...
Origins of Mating Straight Talk – Reasons and Reflections
The Sleeping Lord of Manhood “Look at me. I am a male human being. I came from Woman…the origin of my life, the source of all nourishment, support, safety, and love. I am a male human being. I cannot emulate the Woman-Source to find who I am. I...
Sex Can Be Funny – 50 Humorous Quotes, Volume 1
Yes, sex can be funny. Stereotypes about men and women can be amusing. Even relationship conflict can be (painfully) hilarious. Anything with a kernel of truth that resonates with your personal experience can be funny and bring a feeling of...
Spontaneous and Response Desire – the Underbelly of Heterosexual Mating
John met Sarah at a happy-hour event. She was surrounded by a group of men, but John got some eye contact from her and shared a quick introduction and small talk. It was apparent she was not “with” any of these men, although each one was...
Is Your Sexual Foot on the Accelerator or Brake?
Men and women are different. Their “sexual engine” makes different use of the accelerator and brake. Author, sex researcher, and professor of women’s sexuality, Emily Nagoski, calls this the “dual control model” (Come As You Are, 2015). This model...
Sexual Non-concordance: Recipe for Relationship Confusion
As a man, have you tried to make love to a woman that “seemed” turned-on but actually was not? As a woman, have you endured sexual contact you did not want even though the man was convinced your body signaled otherwise? As a man, have you ever...