Steven’s Blog
Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity, Presentation, and Biological Sex
“Everyone under 25 thinks they are queer.” ~ The Bisexual (Hulu) Mating Straight Talk (MST) attempts to scientifically demonstrate the evolved behavioral sex differences between men and women and explain human mate selection; it does so because...
Women’s Preferences for Male Facial Masculinity
“The face is more honest than the mouth will ever be.” ~ Daphne Orebaugh In a prior post (Want An equal Marriage? Then Date As Equals), I described the “trade-off problem” (coined by evolutionary psychologists) that women have in choosing between...
Side-Swiped: Evolutionary Mismatch and Sex Differences with Mobile Dating
“With the rise of the mobile dating app, we are in evolutionary unprecedented waters.” ~ Justin Garcia, Kinsey Institute Set in the cities and college campuses of Austin, New York City, Santa Cruz, and Plainfield, Illinois,...
Want An Equal Marriage? Then Date As Equals
Based on “If You Want a Marriage of Equals, Then Date As Equals,” by Ellen Lamont in The Atlantic, February 14, 2020.“I know it feels counterintuitive…..I’m a feminist,” the first woman said. “But I like to have a guy be chivalrous.” Heterosexual...
The Male Sexual Deficit: Social Fact of the 21st Century
the"'“Feminists insist that men’s greater demand for sexual activity is an outdated myth. Recent sex surveys prove the myth to be a fact and one that the social sciences have yet to address.” ~ Catherine Hakim Men want more sex than women (in...
Addressing Barriers to Female Sexual Pleasure – Let’s Get Educated
“Think outside her box.” ~ Ian Kerner, PhD., She Comes First Prologue Part of the mission of Mating Straight Talk is to explain and demonstrate the evolved behavioral sex differences between men and women. Sex differences in mating strategies and...
Why Women Are Bored in Monogamous Relationships
“Between two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before.” ~ Mae West In my last post, (Turn Off the Brakes! Making the Most of Responsive Desire), I shared the advice Emily Nagoski gives to couples to improve their sex life. Nagoski and...
Turn Off the Brakes! Making the Most of Female Responsive Desire
Sexuality, Women’s Issues, Relationship Issues, and Tips for Couples In her landmark book, Come As You Are, Emily Nagoski describes the central sexual response mechanism in the brains of men and women. There is a sexual excitation system (SES)...
“Tips for Couples” – Co-creation and Advice from John and Julie Gottman
Love's secret is always lifting its head out from under the covers -- 'Here I am!' ~ Rumi I am excited to share the wisdom of relationship experts in my new blog space, Tips for Couples. If you like “top ten” lists or bite-size pieces of...
Once the Flirting Is Over – Humor in Ongoing Relationships
It was the way you laughed….I knew I wanted that in my life. ~ R.M. Drake Humor is valued for mates worldwide. There is abundant cross-cultural evidence that being funny makes you more desirable as a mate, especially if you are a man. Humor...